Adopt a dog or cat if you’re able. If not, adopt a plant. Have another living thing in your house that requires care besides you.
Create a box of all your favorite self-care items and keep it handy. For me, it’s lavender essential oil, lotion, a Himalayan sea salt candle, epsom salts, dark chocolate, my bullet journal, comfy socks, and a giant fluffy robe.
Create a safe space in your home: a special couch or chair with a special blanket that you can sit and curl up in.
Quit all the things that aren’t bringing you joy.
Go to a thrift store and really look at things. You don’t have to buy anything. Just look.
Ask for help. Ask for help. Ask for help.
Create a morning routine, even if it means getting up earlier. Mine includes: yoga, meditation, reading, writing, and drinking tea or coffee.
Create a night routine, even if it means going to bed earlier. Mine includes: tidying the house and dimming all the lights, walking the dog, taking a long, hot shower with holiday lights on, putting on lotion, doing some journaling, listing three things I’m grateful for from the day, planning for the next day, and reading a book until I fall asleep.
Make a list of all the places you’d like to travel to.
Make a list of small things that make you happy.
Lay in the sunshine. If it’s winter/gray out, invest in a vitamin D bulb.
Do a feelings check-in: start writing about your feelings and don’t stop until you’ve written three 8.5 x 11 pages. You’ll be surprised by what you find.
Take a long solo hike, or if that terrifies you, hike with a friend.
Pursue a hobby. What did you want to do when you were a little kid? Go do that thing.
Do a digital detox – whether it’s one hour or one week or one month, it’s good for you.
Give up caffeine and/or alcohol.
Say no so you can say yes. If you’re having a hard time saying no to something, make a list of all the things you’re really saying yes to when you say no (i.e. saying no to an unhealthy relationship means saying yes to yourself, to free time, to improved relationships with others, etc).
Make a list of things you want to forgive yourself for and then forgive yourself for them. Do a ceremonial burning of the list if you must.
Write a love letter to yourself.
Take some vitamins, especially if you live in a state with seasons (get that Vitamin D in winter, do it).
Listen to nature sounds (just Youtube search for “nature sounds”).
List some boundaries for yourself (for relationships, for works, for whatever you’re struggling with). One of my boundaries for both is walking away anytime feedback feels destructive rather than constructive.